For my Mom: Kris Kristofferson’s For the Good Times – http://youtu.be/Ovb_iRWcqsc
Life is a beginning, a middle, and an end, the time frame for each of us is different. Even when we are fully aware of the end, it is almost always still a shock to our soul. We are not equipped to breeze through the end of our loved ones life. No matter how much lead time we have, no matter how long we have been preparing, our minds, hearts and soul are left wanting.
Each time that I have dealt with loss has been traumatic for more reasons than the loss itself. My realization must than be that death brings out the worst in many people. For reasons, sometimes obvious and sometimes not, there always seems to be more obstacles in death than there are in any other time of our lives. Now maybe it is just me…but I don’t think it is.
As I just shared with my loving cousin this morning: Today I will just focus on the love I have in my life and smile at my sorrow. My meditations have taught me to live in the present moment as it is the only moment we truly have, yet when times like this are upon us, it is hard to follow the path of our own philosophy.
I guess that stumbling through these difficult times is the learning experience that is supposed to enrich us as human beings, I say they just suck. None of us are perfect, our views of others are also flawed, how can we truly know someone when we are constantly learning about ourself. If we are always changing and evolving, the best that we can hope for is that those who love us, will always love us, not always the case in life, but we can still hope!
As a teen I used to be woken up on weekends to my Mom blasting Kris Kristofferson on the record player and singing loudly with each song. I would toss and turn in bed, wanting nothing more than a few more hours of sleep. Finally I would have to give into that music, get up and start my day. If you are reading this, please take a moment to listen to this song, and lovingly think about all the many ways that your parents tortured you.
Have a ROCKIN’ day, Mama
My beautiful cousin Jill…gone too soon!
I’m sure that we all have Strange Days every now and then, I prefer to have them all the time! Normal sucks, I have always been a bit strange and I like it. Life is so short, we never know how long we have, so why not have fun while you have the chance.
Many people, like Jim Morrison, leave us too soon. To me, it is strange to think that so many people who die too early often leave the biggest impact on others. Now that is not to say that those who are around for a long life don’t also have a huge impact…
When I think about the music of so many great artists who left us long before their time, I think how lucky we are to even have had them to begin with. This applies to our own loved ones too. We are so lucky to have the experiences that we have had with family and friends. They leave us with memories, that like music, we can always enjoy.
However you feel and whoever you’ve lost, honor them by remembering them as they were, loving, funny, smart, talented, giving, and yes, even STRANGE!
Today in ROCK history: 1968 – The Doors score again when their sophomore album “Strange Days” goes gold.
If Love has a name, what is it? There are different types of love, but do we name them, and if we do is it to categorize love into nice files that fill our heart? Do we have different levels of love, and divvy it out until we are completely out of love, or do we possess infinite amounts of love that refresh throughout our lives… I do know for sure that my love for my cousin Jill, who recently lost her battle with cancer, was and still is an abundance of goodness. Jill always loved Bon Jovi, who have a hit song “You give Love a Bad Name“, whether this was one of Jill’s favorite songs or not, I do know that she gave Love; named or nameless, neatly categorized or wild and free, to the fullest level to so many people in her lifetime. Jill, you give Love a beautiful name, you are love…and I love you! In this short lifetime that we have, make sure that you love unconditionally…and allow yourself to be love in the same way. Jill taught me a lot of things, I miss her but still have her love and strength to hold onto. Shine on Jill, forever.
Today in ROCK history: 1986 – You Give Love a Bad Name (Bon Jovi) was a hit.